Rima Grace

So make sure you are honest with yourself and your partner about what you're willing to accept.

Okay, let's move on to our next question with our producer, Alice.

What are you thinking, Sam?

Oof, that's pretty sweet and simple.

I think, I mean, honestly, this hits pretty close to home as an Arab American myself.

Yeah, I feel like I've been in this situation before.

What did you do?

I mean, I didn't end up staying with that kind of guy.

Yeah.

And there you have it.

All right.

I mean, it's tough because I do think in Arab cultures, this is very, you know, speaking very generally here, there is a strong expectation that the man in a heterosexual relationship is

There's an expectation that they're going to provide financially.

And so it can feel shameful to show up sort of metaphorically empty-handed when you're dating or courting someone.

So I can imagine, obviously, that's why he was like, I know I'm going to pay for these sodas.

but I think you're right.

I think that's because money and masculinity are very interwoven and it goes, like what he did was beyond just like a nice gesture.

It was like a very strong way of being like, no, this is the dynamic.

He's wasting in that way.

Yeah.