Rima Grace

And so I think, you know, similar to what we've been saying, you want to ground it in I statements, right?

Like, you're not saying that

your career is not important.

You're saying like, I'm really scared of losing my support system here and my sense of home and my friends and family and everything that makes my life feel like my life.

And he's probably afraid of not advancing his career.

And so, yeah, I think those are both very real fears.

And I think you can like fall into the trap of feeling like it's a negotiation when really it's a conversation probably about your values and what you're willing to let go and...

And also, I think it's easy to think that something like this will be forever.

You know?

But it might not be.

Yeah.

And you can always go into something with a kind of agreement.

Yeah, this is an experiment.

We're going to see what happens.

And also, if we do do this, then I need to know that, you know, we can afford for me to go home.

Every, whatever, couple months or...

Yes, that's actually the case I was thinking of.

All right, move out or move on.

This doesn't have to be a make or break for your relationship, but you should both sit down and consider where you see yourselves in the next five years and how flexible you can be about those plans.

Preventing resentment is the name of the game.