Rima Grace

Is financial transparency even the goal?

Maybe.

Maybe for some couples it is, but it sounds like that's not a thing that you would push for as a therapist necessarily.

Is there anything else on this topic that we haven't touched on that you feel like it's maybe surprising or unexpected or just like a good thing to point out?

Yes.

I feel like I need to end on a hopeful note.

Have you ever seen a financial secret actually bring a couple closer together?

I guess that's another version of me being like, are the therapy sessions working?

That's such a good reminder.

All right, this was really insightful.

I'm really glad that we chatted.

Thank you so much for doing this.

When I first started thinking of this question, whether it's ever okay to keep financial secrets from your partner, my brain kept thinking of it from the lens of betrayal.

But after chatting about it with so many people, the question started to feel a little different.

It became less about morality and more about what we feel entitled to keep for ourselves.

So maybe the question is really, is financial privacy okay in a relationship?

But also, I'm really curious to hear what y'all think.

If you have any thoughts on this topic or story you want to share, I'd love to hear them.

You can always reach me and the team at uncomfortableatmarketplace.org.

Also, we're working on an upcoming episode about doom spending, you know, feeling like, what's the point of saving for retirement or sticking to a budget when the world is on fire?