Rima Grace

They'd been with the company for years.

And it took a while before I really adjusted.

And it took like another person my age joining.

But, you know, eventually I did have to reframe how I thought about work.

my coworkers and my relationships with them, I was like, okay, I'm not going to be like best friends with these people necessarily, but there are things I can learn from them.

And so I started to like, there was one person in particular who I would just pepper her with questions all the time and would eventually like pull up my chair and ask her to like, if I was like, can I just shadow you as you're doing this thing?

And then naturally, obviously when you're doing that kind of, when you're working closely with someone like that,

They start talking about their personal life or other things start to come up and then you form connections and then you have things to follow up on.

So I do think it can happen organically in that way if you approach it as like, hey, how can I learn from you?

In my mind, if I was the older person in that situation, I'd be like, this cool young person has better things to do than want to be my friend.

I feel like that right now.

I'm like, this 20-year-old doesn't want to be friends with me.

Yeah, they know what skibbity whatever is.

But also, you know, I think...

If you feel excluded also, it's for so many reasons or you feel like you're different from whatever your coworkers.

It's so easy to internalize it and think like this isn't clicking because they hate me and they think there's something wrong with me.

And then you're kind of.

behaving in that manner towards them, right?

Yeah.

Yes, I fully agree.