Rob Dial

That's why they're nervous.

That's why they're not confident.

Because we're always mentally rehearsing something, whether we realize it or not.

You're always mentally rehearsing.

Your brain, the greatest skill set of a human is also, they say, usually your greatest strength is your greatest weakness.

The greatest strength that kept our species alive is we could visualize the future and prepare for danger.

That's good for danger, but that's not good for going in to try to be more confident.

Because what are we visualizing?

The negative aspects of life.

The things that we're trying to avoid.

The things that we're afraid of.

So we're always mentally rehearsing something.

The question is, are you mentally rehearsing what you're afraid of?

Or are you mentally rehearsing being more confident?

Visualization is a mental dress rehearsal for your future self.

And so that's the second thing.

The third thing, and I used to be...

really against these because i thought they were corny but i have completely changed my mind in the past five years on them affirmations you need to get better at talking to yourself i want you to think of the worst person in your life right the person who is the worst to you the kid and it was in high school they used to beat you up or threw a hot dog across the kitchen in inside of school and you got smacked in the face of the hot dog and everybody made fun of you whatever it is think of that worst person the bully that you hated all of that

I want you to understand that person who's the worst person in your life, there's a good chance that over the course of your lifetime, you've been worse to yourself than they were to you because of the things that you say to yourself.

It's so often that it just makes me so sad how many people have such negative self-talk.