Rob Dial

From going out, from trying, from fucking up, from learning, from getting better next time, right?

Imagine a failed relationship, for instance.

The fact is this, a relationship ended.

Everything else is full-on interpretation.

Yet most people immediately think, oh, well, the relationship ended, and they immediately add in, like, I'm unlovable, and I'll always be abandoned, and nobody ever stays in my life, and I'll be alone forever.

This is the example of the data, which is a relationship ended, getting contaminated.

The event happened.

That's it.

The emotion and the meaning that you assign to it

rewrote what actually happened.

And so winners become unshakably skilled at what happened, like this is what happened versus what I feel happened.

And these are very, very, really the same thing.

And so like a great analogy to think about is like, imagine a scientist runs an experiment and the experiment fails.

The scientist does not cry over the experiment and conclude that they're worthless.

and then do the experiment over again.

They just simply gather information, they make adjustments, and they do it differently the next time.

Life works the exact same way.

If you want to become a winner in your life, you must become the scientist.

You are the scientist and you're the experiment in your life.

Otherwise, you'll probably become a victim of your own narrative.