Rob Henderson
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first heard Apr 2025
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Whereas a highly successful CEO would be the reverse, highly agentic, but relatively unfeeling. We don't think of successful CEOs as exquisitely sensitive to pain and emotional suffering and those kinds of things, but they're really able to execute.
But then when researchers apply this moral dyad framework to human groups, basically we see that political conservatives generally attribute both to most people. Regardless of your background, ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender, we're all kind of capable of being competent, but also sensitive and vulnerable.
Whereas on the political left, they tend to view sort of marginalized and mistreated groups as one or the other. or marginalized and mistreated groups as vulnerable feelers and historically dominant groups as thinking doers.
And so a cop and a criminal, for example, political conservatives say, well, cops and criminals alike can suffer, can feel pain, can plan, can execute, are responsible for their own actions. Whereas political liberals tend to say, you know, cops are these thinking doers, these mechanistic, highly agentic beings and criminals are these vulnerable feelers.
you know, exploited people who are susceptible to being victimized. And I think that actually kind of explains, you know, like why we see relatively little concern for, you know, men. And then when we talk about men, I find it interesting sometimes when you see, because I spent a lot of time in academia, you know, it's not enough. Like I think left of center academics are,
When they talk about men in broad strokes, I think there's this fear that they may be mistaken for talking about all men, including non-white men. And so often they'll specify, they'll say, well, these white men who are complaining about being incels or these white men who are complaining about falling behind in society. And I think to myself, you know, it's not just white men.
I was at this conference a couple of weeks ago. And this reporter for the New York Times, he was on stage and he was a very interesting guy who was very balanced in his analysis of what happened with the 2024 election. And this white guy in the audience raises his hand and he says, yeah, that's all really interesting. But again, this is a white guy and the reporter is a black man.
So the white guy is like... Don't you think that this was basically white male toxic masculinity? You know, these guys who are talking about how bad they have it, these white guys and the black New York Times reporter shoots back and says, like, well, those guys are upset, but it's not just a white thing.
Like, if you look at the polling data in terms of who supported Trump, like it was across the board of men of all races. shifted towards the Republicans. Yeah, the only the only segment he lost in was white people. Yeah, yeah, exactly. That's right.
And so so I think like a lot of people, you know, they want to isolate it and talk about the most powerful and privileged group white men, but actually, it's a little more complicated than that.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's what was men, men, not erect women, women, most men, not erect women, most effective. Yeah, that's yeah, that yeah, that's an interesting point there that like, well, men aren't erect. But then it's, you know, again, it's it's the man's fault for being unable to achieve an erection. And that yeah, who's who's who's really vulnerable here.
which is, yeah, it's an interesting framing there. Like you mentioned that, uh, you know, often women do feel, um, uh, you know, unhappy about this, that, that they see it as a reflection on maybe their own attractiveness. And you've probably seen some, some research going on. I saw, I saw Rolf Dagan tweet something about this.
There was a study about how, um, women essentially feel like extremely satisfied when their male partner has an orgasm and they feel very dissatisfied when they don't like, they feel like the sense of accomplishment by bringing their male partner to
to completion in the bedroom, which I guess, like, you know, there's probably an evolutionary story you could tell there that, you know, historically, evolutionarily, male orgasm is required for the continuation of the species, whereas women's orgasm, you know, it's great, but also, you know, not necessary for the continuation. Yeah, yeah, exactly.
Mm-hmm.
right oh right you know what i mean yeah yeah yeah so so in in this case it's um kind of uh the the complexity of your sexuality and what what brings you to be aroused and to have an orgasm it's it's much more varied for women than for men which is yeah that's at odds with uh what we usually see that's fascinating novel novel insight that's some fucking bro science for you that's really yeah dr rob henderson
Well, I remember seeing this study a while ago and I think like it's funny, like, you know, all of these stories about conflict in the bedroom and how, you know, I've seen articles that we need to achieve like orgasm equity, that it's unfair that men always have an orgasm. And women, you know, it's so unlikely for them.
But then when you look at the data, as far as like, like, in what relational context women actually have orgasms. Let me see if I get these numbers right. So so when women are in a committed relationship with a male partner, so this heterosexual couples, they orgasm something like 70% of the time.
Um, but then when you look at, uh, hookups, like a, like a casual, uh, uh, partner that you see on a somewhat regular basis, it drops to something like 25%. And then for one night stand, it's like well into the single digits, it's like 7%. And so, you know, like, you know, one, one way that women might increase their odds of having an orgasm is to get into a committed relationship.
There's something cosmically unfair that like when a man has a one night stand, casual sex, committed relationship that we, you know, they usually make, make it work. Whereas for women, like there's all these other... what was that term going around a couple of years ago? It was like demisexual or something like I need to have an emotional connection.
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