Rob Henderson
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first heard Apr 2025
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That's right. Yeah, yeah. So the logic here is, you know, the other example I pointed out was with Leonardo DiCaprio, where every six months it's like, oh, another flare-up online of, oh, Leonardo DiCaprio has another 19-year-old supermodel girlfriend. He cycled out someone who just turned 25. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And yeah, he resets back, you know, rewinds the clock.
And then, you know, there's all this discourse online where, you know, Speaking very roughly, women seem to be more upset and men are like, hey, this is kind of evolutionary science. This is biology. You know, a super high status, successful guy. You can't really be that surprised that he'd search for women who are young and youthful and all those kinds of things. And then...
And then women in response are trying to shame him and stigmatize this kind of behavior. And there's an evolutionary reason for both of those things, right? Like there is an evolutionary explanation for why men would enjoy being partnered with an attractive young woman, because on average, attractive young women tend to be more fertile.
And so if you average that out through the course of evolutionary history, men who are more attracted to those types of women tend to have more kids. And then it's interesting if you look at research on the ages that men tend to find women the most attractive, it all clusters around 23, 24 years old, regardless of the male participant who's being asked.
So even 13 year old boys, they say 23 year old women are the most attractive. They're not saying other 13 year old And then, you know, you go all the way up to 70 plus years old and men tend to say, oh, women physically are at their peak in their early mid 20s. Whereas for women, it's a bit more sort of matched with their own age. And there's an evolutionary reason for that.
But then for women who shame men for. you know, as they increasingly grow older and continue to date young women, there's the logic here is that, you know, you want to stigmatize this kind of behavior. You want to shame it. You don't want other men to do the same thing. You're basically trying to kind of police and confine men to be a bit more committed as a caregiver.
And then when you have a super high profile person like Leonardo DiCaprio, You know, you don't want that to become sort of normalized where every successful guy who women tend to be highly attracted to every single one of those types of guys are following the Leonardo DiCaprio model. And this reduces women's chances of commitment from one of these prominent guys. Yeah.
Yeah, well, I don't think like, you know, these women logically in their rational, conscious mind, they're probably not thinking someday I'm going to date Leonardo DiCaprio and I'm going to get him to commit to me. But it could be more so like I would like to date a high status man in general. And your odds are still low.
Interesting. Well, so the idea here is like, as women surpass men, and in one of the pieces that I sent you that I wrote, it was something like, in a lot of major metropolitan cities in the US now, Washington, DC, Boston, Los Angeles, New York City, Americans under 30, women are performing as well or even better than men in terms of earnings and income.
And so if women are outperforming men, then yeah, you're going to create these, you know, soft harem dynamics of women, you know, basically being willing to date guys who may be dating other women. And even if they don't explicitly know this or desire this, this is just sort of a natural outcome. Yeah, I think like... Ideally, everyone wants commitment. Everyone wants someone.
But then I always think of this famous or this very nice line in Steven Pinker's famous book, How the Mind Works. And it's something like most women would rather share John F. Kennedy than have Bobo the Clown all to themselves. And, you know, the book was written in the 90s, so the references are a bit dated.
But the idea here is most women would rather, you know, maybe share Leonardo DiCaprio than have you know, some guy who's barely scraping by for their sole husband. And I do wonder sometimes because like over the last five or 10 years, there's been this discussion around polycules, poly relationships, open marriages, all these kinds of things. And maybe this is kind of the
inevitable outcome of the deregulation of the sexual marketplace of men falling more and more behind and, you know, people seemingly unwilling or uninterested in sort of figuring out what's going on there and prove men's prospects and thereby that would actually improve monogamy.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, that's, yeah, that's, you know, whenever you see men falling behind, you know, often the headlines and the articles are framed as, well, women are suffering because, you know, they're unable to find a desirable male partner.
But, you know, the logic is let's concentrate on the woman who's suffering when actually, you know, the reason why she can't find desirable male partners because the men are the ones who are like floundering and falling further and further behind. Yeah.
Yeah, yeah, I think that was that's well put. And if you look at kind of the the research on who people think deserve help, or who would benefit most from help those kinds of things, it seems to be that especially on the political left, there's this belief that, um, Historically mistreated groups, it's perfectly reasonable not to hold them responsible for their misfortunes.
But then historically dominant groups, you know, men and white people and straight people and so on, that if they're struggling, if they're not doing as well in society, then, you know, there's something wrong with them. But if marginalized groups aren't doing well, it's something wrong with society.
And, you know, it's interesting sort of if you break this down politically, there's a really interesting book that just came out called Outraged by the psychologist Kurt Gray. And he talks about what he calls like moral dyad theory and how, you know, basically we categorize people into two different types.
Generally speaking, like not even people, but just entities in general, including people, which he calls one group of vulnerable feelers. And these are people who are sort of exquisitely sensitive to suffering and to pain and to anguish. You know, constantly put upon and beleaguered. And then he talks about what he calls thinking doers.
And this is the reverse people who are relatively unfeeling, but highly agentic, you know, capable of strategizing, forming a plan, executing and so on. And so like an example of a vulnerable feeler, you know, the sort of the extremes, a newborn infant is a vulnerable feeler. We attribute basically no agency to the baby, but we attribute a lot of vulnerability to it.
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