Robert

Since it was 1997, she created a website and named it Alana's Involuntary Celibate Project.

So that's sort of the origin point of all of this stuff.

And it's perfectly banal.

Like, it's perfectly harmless.

Alana's not doing anything wrong.

She's trying to connect with other young, awkward people who are trying to figure out life.

She described her form as a friendly place, and it was a place that both men and women frequented.

And they would go there, and they could talk about being lonely, and they could wonder aloud, like, what am I doing wrong?

Why am I not meeting anybody?

What do I need to do differently?

Once again, men have to take credit for women's work.

Right.

That is a big part of this story is how the women get completely edged out of this community and of this like concept.

And it turns much more toxic as a result.

Because when it is mixed gender, when it's Alana, you know, and a bunch of like when it's a bunch of men and women on this forum, the purpose is not to hate on people for not dating them.

The purpose is to figure out what do we need to do different in order to change this thing about our lives?

Right.

Which is a reasonable thing to ask.

She recalled there was probably a bit of anger and some women were a bit clueless about how men are unique human individuals.

But in general, it was a supportive place.