Robyn Fivush

And the families that were more collaborative, who really shared the emotional experience, you know, I know that you were really sad about that. I was sad, too. I remember, you know, that you were crying when Susie came over to hug you. And that kind of shared emotional resonance really helps us deal with grief and mourning and difficult experiences more.

And the families that were more collaborative, who really shared the emotional experience, you know, I know that you were really sad about that. I was sad, too. I remember, you know, that you were crying when Susie came over to hug you. And that kind of shared emotional resonance really helps us deal with grief and mourning and difficult experiences more.

So rather than being – asking open-ended questions, you ask close-ended questions. Did you have fun rather than how did you feel? And that there's no opportunity for the child to do more than say yes or no. Or even saying something like, you remember your grandmother's cookies, don't you? Yeah. You know, maybe that's not always important to the child.

So rather than being – asking open-ended questions, you ask close-ended questions. Did you have fun rather than how did you feel? And that there's no opportunity for the child to do more than say yes or no. Or even saying something like, you remember your grandmother's cookies, don't you? Yeah. You know, maybe that's not always important to the child.

So rather than being – asking open-ended questions, you ask close-ended questions. Did you have fun rather than how did you feel? And that there's no opportunity for the child to do more than say yes or no. Or even saying something like, you remember your grandmother's cookies, don't you? Yeah. You know, maybe that's not always important to the child.

Maybe she wants to talk about the ornaments that were on the Christmas tree. So it's not really giving the child an opportunity to recall their perspective on the event or what they remember. And when the child doesn't remember, the parent will simply repeat the question. You know, who drove down to Florida with us? Who was in the front seat? Don't you remember? Who was in the front seat with us?

Maybe she wants to talk about the ornaments that were on the Christmas tree. So it's not really giving the child an opportunity to recall their perspective on the event or what they remember. And when the child doesn't remember, the parent will simply repeat the question. You know, who drove down to Florida with us? Who was in the front seat? Don't you remember? Who was in the front seat with us?

Maybe she wants to talk about the ornaments that were on the Christmas tree. So it's not really giving the child an opportunity to recall their perspective on the event or what they remember. And when the child doesn't remember, the parent will simply repeat the question. You know, who drove down to Florida with us? Who was in the front seat? Don't you remember? Who was in the front seat with us?

The child just doesn't remember. So it's almost as if the elaborative collaborative style is their goals are different. Their goals are to create a shared story in the moment that creates a resonance and a shared history and helps us to bond and understand each other. The more non-elaborative or repetitive parents, it's about getting the facts right.

The child just doesn't remember. So it's almost as if the elaborative collaborative style is their goals are different. Their goals are to create a shared story in the moment that creates a resonance and a shared history and helps us to bond and understand each other. The more non-elaborative or repetitive parents, it's about getting the facts right.

The child just doesn't remember. So it's almost as if the elaborative collaborative style is their goals are different. Their goals are to create a shared story in the moment that creates a resonance and a shared history and helps us to bond and understand each other. The more non-elaborative or repetitive parents, it's about getting the facts right.

I remember there was a mother with her four-year-old son who was a dinosaur fanatic. And they were talking about going to a natural history museum. And she was asking about seeing the T-Rex. And he was like, no, no. There was no T-Rex. And she's like, yes, there was. There was a T-Rex there. Don't you remember?

I remember there was a mother with her four-year-old son who was a dinosaur fanatic. And they were talking about going to a natural history museum. And she was asking about seeing the T-Rex. And he was like, no, no. There was no T-Rex. And she's like, yes, there was. There was a T-Rex there. Don't you remember?

I remember there was a mother with her four-year-old son who was a dinosaur fanatic. And they were talking about going to a natural history museum. And she was asking about seeing the T-Rex. And he was like, no, no. There was no T-Rex. And she's like, yes, there was. There was a T-Rex there. Don't you remember?

And she goes on and says, you know, and then we saw, you know, the exhibit on this dinosaur and that dinosaur. And he's like, yeah, there was a brontosaurus and da-da-da-da. And he lists them. But there was no T-Rex. And she's saying, I know there was a T-Rex. And then he says, no. And he names another museum. And she says, oh. That's right. But it was almost as if there was a T-Rex there.

And she goes on and says, you know, and then we saw, you know, the exhibit on this dinosaur and that dinosaur. And he's like, yeah, there was a brontosaurus and da-da-da-da. And he lists them. But there was no T-Rex. And she's saying, I know there was a T-Rex. And then he says, no. And he names another museum. And she says, oh. That's right. But it was almost as if there was a T-Rex there.

And she goes on and says, you know, and then we saw, you know, the exhibit on this dinosaur and that dinosaur. And he's like, yeah, there was a brontosaurus and da-da-da-da. And he lists them. But there was no T-Rex. And she's saying, I know there was a T-Rex. And then he says, no. And he names another museum. And she says, oh. That's right. But it was almost as if there was a T-Rex there.

So she, you know, it's not a collaboration of kind of, oh, maybe there wasn't, you know, maybe my memory could not be accurate or maybe the way you're remembering it is different or, you know, there's kind of an assumption that I remember it correctly and you don't. And it's my job to make sure you remember it correctly.

So she, you know, it's not a collaboration of kind of, oh, maybe there wasn't, you know, maybe my memory could not be accurate or maybe the way you're remembering it is different or, you know, there's kind of an assumption that I remember it correctly and you don't. And it's my job to make sure you remember it correctly.

So she, you know, it's not a collaboration of kind of, oh, maybe there wasn't, you know, maybe my memory could not be accurate or maybe the way you're remembering it is different or, you know, there's kind of an assumption that I remember it correctly and you don't. And it's my job to make sure you remember it correctly.