Roxane Gay
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first heard Jul 2026
last heard 21 Jul
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At this point in my life, I often wonder, was the sexual assault worse or the aftermath?
And I think because you live with the aftermath in many ways forever, that is kind of worse than the assault itself, which was very bad.
And so it's interesting to sort of carry that truth and
I've been talking a lot about this in therapy lately.
There's a bitterness that comes along with that in many ways because it's like...
man, if I had been different, if I hadn't been so young, if I had told my parents, if I had asked for help, if I had known that I should ask for help and that I shouldn't sort of shroud what happened to me in shame, what would I have become?
Who would I have become if I didn't gain all this weight as a safety protection measure?
What would I have accomplished?
Because I know what I've accomplished in this body.
What on earth would I have accomplished if I was slender?
I mean, I don't think people want that scenario because I think I would be president.
I'd fucking vote for you.
I'd vote for you, girl.
I really feel like I would either be a president or an astronaut, something along those lines.
And those questions are not productive, but I think many of us are plagued by them.
If I didn't have to have all of my time and my energy occupied by –
What would my life have been like?
But at the same time, I also recognize that I wouldn't be the person that I am today if I had not gone through what ended up being a very horrifically formative experience.
And it's not like I am grateful for the experience.
But I don't know that I would want to be any other way in the world than I am now.
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