Ryan Hanley

How do I, is it bound, like, how do I know, how do I position myself, solidify myself, whatever the right term is for,

okay, I'm giving and I don't expect anything back.

I'm giving without expectation of reciprocation.

Okay, great.

I believe in that.

You know,

but I, it doesn't, it, the person still tries to push.

And now I feel like I gave all this to the relationship and I'm getting, I'm still getting nothing back.

How do I create those guardrails?

How do I emotionally deal with the fact that I felt like I took a big leap to try to improve things and the other person just seemingly so far hasn't wanted to adjust course or play nice.

I was listening to Chris Williamson show the other day, a modern wisdom.

I don't know if you're familiar with that show, but he had a psychologist of some sort on the show as he tends to do.

And they were talking not necessarily about, they weren't talking about negotiation, but they were talking about rejection, um,

And the context is escaping me, but he shared this stat that north of 40% of men under the age of 30 have never asked a woman out in person.

Like I've never been in the same space and said, hey, do you want to get a drink with me or a cup of coffee or whatever?

And-

And he was kind of – he was taking that stat, and he had others, to kind of show some of the difficulties that younger generations are having integrating into the workforce, at least certain individuals, is because they're –

they're not used to hearing no, right?

There's just this idea that I don't, that I even have a micro loss, right?

I mean, I don't, there wasn't the internet when I was growing up.