Ryan Hanley

How do you deal with that?

What about someone who would push back and say, but if I shut that down, am I going to be penalized by it?

I'm worried I'm going to be penalized by this person if I don't just take in all the crap they're dumping on me.

Yeah, I love that point.

I think I think that's perfectly put because it's very easy because of your own stress or your own timelines to get frustrated by that lost time.

And I know early in my career, I fairly severe ADHD, diagnosed, not self diagnosed.

And early in my career, I didn't understand why I responded to people in certain ways, right?

Because like,

I would be like, I'm going like this all the time.

And I'm like, why can't you keep up?

Like, why are you wasting time?

Like, you know, my brain is going a thousand miles an hour.

And it wasn't until I like had a couple of negative experiences where I got fired from jobs that I loved because of this behavior where I just wanted to go all the time that I went and got some help and came back.

Okay.

My point is, um,

We have so much going on in our lives.

It's very easy to just snap at that person.

Sure, it is.

And now you get into an adversarial relationship with that boss.

So maybe how do we – and this is maybe being a little selfish in this question only because I wish I had spoken to someone like you before –