Ryan Hanley

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A lot of times it's communication.

So what are some of those early communication steps that someone can start to take to actually convey, kind of crack that macho, alpha male kind of thing that so many guys try to play?

I catch myself and my kids all the time.

I'm like, Oh my God, I hate that.

Cause if anyone ever told me I shoulda, I would have like immediately pushed back and I'm doing it to them.

It's, it's so, it's like, we don't even, how do I hear what comes out of my mouth?

Yeah, this is actually a really good use for AI, too, because you could create a custom prompt or project, et cetera, inside of, you know, Claude or OpenAI and put in, like, the characteristics of how you want to communicate, right?

Like, you know, call out find buts, find you shouldas, find, you know, et cetera.

And then you could actually take your transcripts from team meetings or one-on-ones and upload them and say, analyze this based on my criteria, like how I want to talk and learn.

Like that's where some of these AI tools actually can really help us, I think, as leaders is in self-evaluation.

You know, I asked you that question.

I want to be completely transparent.

That's not my original – I didn't come up with that question.

Actually, my counselor asked me that all the time because she says I talk too fast.

So she said one day, like, with how fast you talk, how do you actually hear what you're saying?

And I had some sort of sarcastic response to her because that's kind of our relationship.

But I thought it was really valuable because a lot of conflict –

I communicate something to you, and in my head I know what I'm trying to say, but I'm not really paying attention to the way it's coming out of my face.

And then you hear the thing that comes out of my face, not what was going on in my head.