Ryan Hanley

There's another person coming on and telling me I need to work with people, but how do I do it?

How do I get out of my transactional leadership life and actually spend some real time with my people?

I had this, I'm going to try to keep this question short.

Um, even though there's a lead in, cause I, so I have a friend and she was DMing me on Instagram and she was, she doesn't live near me.

She was complaining about guys in general, right?

She's dating, she's in her forties and she's complaining.

She's like, you know,

She's like, I miss guys holding doors.

Kind of the classic guys have lost chivalry kind of conversation, which I think is very true.

I got divorced three years ago, and I didn't realize how bad it was until I started going on dates with women, and they would tell me their horror stories, and I'm like, holy shit, this is what you deal with on a day-to-day basis?

So guys, step your game up.

So she was complaining about that, and then the conversation kind of morphed into old school values versus new school values, and I don't want to make it...

political necessarily, but I tend to skew more towards old school values.

However, one of the things that I think

we have started to crack that's so important is you can be a strong, confident person and still have feelings and emotions and communicate once in a while.

How do these guys in particular, although I know it happens to women too, but I think this is a particularly poignant problem for men who want to be that...

And I think not often for bad reasons, for good reasons.

They want to be the lighthouse in the storm, right?

They feel like that's their role, but then they have no ability to communicate.

Like, their team sees them as a dictator, and in their mind, they're this benevolent savior, like, you know, keeping the waves from the town.