Ryan Hanley

I said some of the things that I said in certain jobs when I was frustrated by the pace.

When we do, let's say I do have a negative reaction, right?

So let's say I am trauma dumping on you, right?

And you got your own stuff going on and you snap back at me.

And now we have some conflict.

Now we have some hierarchical conflict, right?

I felt like I was being authentic and vulnerable with you.

And now I feel like dismissed or like you don't want to hear me.

And now how do we start to

put that relationship back together?

If both of us are coming at our core from a good place, right?

Let's assume we're both good actors, but we now have that conflict.

How do we start to distangle that?

I don't know if distangle is a word, but I'm gonna go with it.

Detangle's probably better, yeah.

yeah and i really like the way you um the idea of i'm sorry for for the way that i showed up yesterday because i think what that does is for both parties it we're discussing what the problem actually is and not it it keeps the conversation from spreading into other things right this interaction that we had yesterday

I had X, Y, Z going on.

I heard something.

I reacted incredibly poorly.

I shouldn't have been in that mindset for that meeting and whatever.