Ryan Hanley

And I apologize for that.

That I think allows everybody to take and focus on what the issue is versus when we give that like the, the, the husband apology, which, you know, I'm as guilty of as anyone, right?

What ends that opens the door to, but then you did this thing the other day and three weeks ago you did this and now all of a sudden we're down this spiral that just is not productive.

Yeah.

The best advice I ever got was from a mentor about, well, it's probably eight years ago now.

He said, uh, go find a counselor that you respect and just see them every other week for the rest of your life and consider a life expense.

Whether you're in a good spot, bad spot, doesn't matter for the rest of your life.

And she always said, so I go see this woman.

Her name's Margie.

She's amazing.

She's 84 years old.

Absolute rock star.

You would never know.

Uh,

that she's 84, she's got all this life experience.

And she always says to me, she goes, any I'm sorry that's followed by a but is not an I'm sorry.

It completely negates everything you've said.

It completely cancels.

So she's like, don't ever say I'm sorry, but.

Even if in your head there is a but, just don't let it come out of your face.