Ryan Hanley

Like, you know, my brain is going a thousand miles an hour.

And it wasn't until I like had a couple of negative experiences where I got fired from jobs that I loved because of this behavior where I just wanted to go all the time that I went and got some help and came back.

Okay.

My point is, um,

We have so much going on in our lives.

It's very easy to just snap at that person.

Sure, it is.

And now you get into an adversarial relationship with that boss.

So maybe how do we – and this is maybe being a little selfish in this question only because I wish I had spoken to someone like you before –

I said some of the things that I said in certain jobs when I was frustrated by the pace.

When we do, let's say I do have a negative reaction, right?

So let's say I am trauma dumping on you, right?

And you got your own stuff going on and you snap back at me.

And now we have some conflict.

Now we have some hierarchical conflict, right?

I felt like I was being authentic and vulnerable with you.

And now I feel like dismissed or like you don't want to hear me.

And now how do we start to

put that relationship back together?

If both of us are coming at our core from a good place, right?