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Ryan Soave

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
1146 total appearances

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Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

I really believe gratitude is meeting what is as it is. You know, that I always, when I give people this and when I practice it myself, I try at least to be one of the things I'm grateful for to be something that I'm challenged by. And not just to say, I'm going to learn a lesson from this, but I might not know what that is, but to really express gratitude for some challenge I'm having.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

I really believe gratitude is meeting what is as it is. You know, that I always, when I give people this and when I practice it myself, I try at least to be one of the things I'm grateful for to be something that I'm challenged by. And not just to say, I'm going to learn a lesson from this, but I might not know what that is, but to really express gratitude for some challenge I'm having.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

So that's kind of a mindset. And then the next thing is just laying out your plans for the day and not like a detailed calendar, but like, you know, I'm going to wait, you know, take the kids to school, go to work, travel, you know, have a business dinner tonight. Right. And then, so I kind of know what's happening that day.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

So that's kind of a mindset. And then the next thing is just laying out your plans for the day and not like a detailed calendar, but like, you know, I'm going to wait, you know, take the kids to school, go to work, travel, you know, have a business dinner tonight. Right. And then, so I kind of know what's happening that day.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

So that's kind of a mindset. And then the next thing is just laying out your plans for the day and not like a detailed calendar, but like, you know, I'm going to wait, you know, take the kids to school, go to work, travel, you know, have a business dinner tonight. Right. And then, so I kind of know what's happening that day.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

And then from there, look at what are my, what's my emotional state currently? What am I experiencing now? Especially if it's like fears, resentments, anger, guilt, shame, it could be something else. It could just be like, I'm feeling I feel really solid today.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

And then from there, look at what are my, what's my emotional state currently? What am I experiencing now? Especially if it's like fears, resentments, anger, guilt, shame, it could be something else. It could just be like, I'm feeling I feel really solid today.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

And then from there, look at what are my, what's my emotional state currently? What am I experiencing now? Especially if it's like fears, resentments, anger, guilt, shame, it could be something else. It could just be like, I'm feeling I feel really solid today.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

But when I can take what's going to happen today and what I'm already experiencing, I can look at what I'm doing today and think, you know, there are some character liabilities or defects that might come up. Like if I have to travel today and I've got to take three flights instead of one, I can know that if I know myself, I might say I could have the ability to become impatient, controlling.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

But when I can take what's going to happen today and what I'm already experiencing, I can look at what I'm doing today and think, you know, there are some character liabilities or defects that might come up. Like if I have to travel today and I've got to take three flights instead of one, I can know that if I know myself, I might say I could have the ability to become impatient, controlling.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

But when I can take what's going to happen today and what I'm already experiencing, I can look at what I'm doing today and think, you know, there are some character liabilities or defects that might come up. Like if I have to travel today and I've got to take three flights instead of one, I can know that if I know myself, I might say I could have the ability to become impatient, controlling.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

And look at my day to say โ€“ almost predict what are the emotional disturbances that can happen that day. And then coupled with the state that I'm in, if I'm already upset about something else, I've got a higher likelihood of going into these reactive patterns that I don't necessarily want to go into. And so much like going on a trip where I would look and see what the weather is going to be.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

And look at my day to say โ€“ almost predict what are the emotional disturbances that can happen that day. And then coupled with the state that I'm in, if I'm already upset about something else, I've got a higher likelihood of going into these reactive patterns that I don't necessarily want to go into. And so much like going on a trip where I would look and see what the weather is going to be.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

And look at my day to say โ€“ almost predict what are the emotional disturbances that can happen that day. And then coupled with the state that I'm in, if I'm already upset about something else, I've got a higher likelihood of going into these reactive patterns that I don't necessarily want to go into. And so much like going on a trip where I would look and see what the weather is going to be.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

If it's going to be โ€“ it looks like it's going to be rainy the whole time I'm there, I'm going to pack a raincoat. Now, that doesn't mean I'm not going to get wet. But once I start getting wet, I can go get my raincoat and put it on. Same thing in this.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

If it's going to be โ€“ it looks like it's going to be rainy the whole time I'm there, I'm going to pack a raincoat. Now, that doesn't mean I'm not going to get wet. But once I start getting wet, I can go get my raincoat and put it on. Same thing in this.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

If it's going to be โ€“ it looks like it's going to be rainy the whole time I'm there, I'm going to pack a raincoat. Now, that doesn't mean I'm not going to get wet. But once I start getting wet, I can go get my raincoat and put it on. Same thing in this.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

The last part of it is to look for what I'm gonna watch for because of my plans and my emotional state now, I know that I have to watch for being like maybe short or controlling. I wanna watch for these character defects or liabilities. And then what do I wanna strive for? I'm gonna strive for being patient, tolerant, kind.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

The last part of it is to look for what I'm gonna watch for because of my plans and my emotional state now, I know that I have to watch for being like maybe short or controlling. I wanna watch for these character defects or liabilities. And then what do I wanna strive for? I'm gonna strive for being patient, tolerant, kind.

Huberman Lab
Tools for Overcoming Substance & Behavioral Addictions | Ryan Soave

The last part of it is to look for what I'm gonna watch for because of my plans and my emotional state now, I know that I have to watch for being like maybe short or controlling. I wanna watch for these character defects or liabilities. And then what do I wanna strive for? I'm gonna strive for being patient, tolerant, kind.