Ryan Soave

the anticipation is still something that's coming out of what we've experienced before, right? And then from there, we go into an automatic reaction and it's like a fight or flight response. It might not seem like that because we don't, we might not be thinking I'm going to die from this, but if, you know, we might be thinking I'm not going to be okay. And what is, I'm not going to be okay.

the anticipation is still something that's coming out of what we've experienced before, right? And then from there, we go into an automatic reaction and it's like a fight or flight response. It might not seem like that because we don't, we might not be thinking I'm going to die from this, but if, you know, we might be thinking I'm not going to be okay. And what is, I'm not going to be okay.

the anticipation is still something that's coming out of what we've experienced before, right? And then from there, we go into an automatic reaction and it's like a fight or flight response. It might not seem like that because we don't, we might not be thinking I'm going to die from this, but if, you know, we might be thinking I'm not going to be okay. And what is, I'm not going to be okay.

That gets carried out and it's triggered in the body, I would say in the same way as I'm at threat, I'm in danger. And this is where were confusing discomfort. Because even if I am going to be not going to get the answer I want, or I'm going to be abandoned, it's not life-threatening. It's not actually threatening. It's perceived threat.

That gets carried out and it's triggered in the body, I would say in the same way as I'm at threat, I'm in danger. And this is where were confusing discomfort. Because even if I am going to be not going to get the answer I want, or I'm going to be abandoned, it's not life-threatening. It's not actually threatening. It's perceived threat.

That gets carried out and it's triggered in the body, I would say in the same way as I'm at threat, I'm in danger. And this is where were confusing discomfort. Because even if I am going to be not going to get the answer I want, or I'm going to be abandoned, it's not life-threatening. It's not actually threatening. It's perceived threat.

But I respond to that perceived threat as if it's actual threat. And I might respond by kind of going after the person, like, I need to know right now, being obsessive about it, I might respond by withdrawing completely and hiding from it. But it creates this cycle of kind of an automatic reaction to things that doesn't allow me to build tolerance for that stressor, right?

But I respond to that perceived threat as if it's actual threat. And I might respond by kind of going after the person, like, I need to know right now, being obsessive about it, I might respond by withdrawing completely and hiding from it. But it creates this cycle of kind of an automatic reaction to things that doesn't allow me to build tolerance for that stressor, right?

But I respond to that perceived threat as if it's actual threat. And I might respond by kind of going after the person, like, I need to know right now, being obsessive about it, I might respond by withdrawing completely and hiding from it. But it creates this cycle of kind of an automatic reaction to things that doesn't allow me to build tolerance for that stressor, right?

The solution to that is first be aware that that's happening. And once you're aware that that happens and it happens to us all the time, once I recognize that I'm in this cycle below to find a way to stop, to intervene on that, to take a break from it. It might be just those 20 seconds. It might be something that it might be taking a few breaths. It might be walking away from it.

The solution to that is first be aware that that's happening. And once you're aware that that happens and it happens to us all the time, once I recognize that I'm in this cycle below to find a way to stop, to intervene on that, to take a break from it. It might be just those 20 seconds. It might be something that it might be taking a few breaths. It might be walking away from it.

The solution to that is first be aware that that's happening. And once you're aware that that happens and it happens to us all the time, once I recognize that I'm in this cycle below to find a way to stop, to intervene on that, to take a break from it. It might be just those 20 seconds. It might be something that it might be taking a few breaths. It might be walking away from it.

I think the concept is stilling leads to seeing. I love that. the more that we can still the mind, the easier we can see what's actually happening versus what we perceive is happening. So what you say is so true that it is hard. If the first step is to, after we recognize that this is something that's happening, is to stop when we're in the middle of response, how do we stop?

I think the concept is stilling leads to seeing. I love that. the more that we can still the mind, the easier we can see what's actually happening versus what we perceive is happening. So what you say is so true that it is hard. If the first step is to, after we recognize that this is something that's happening, is to stop when we're in the middle of response, how do we stop?

I think the concept is stilling leads to seeing. I love that. the more that we can still the mind, the easier we can see what's actually happening versus what we perceive is happening. So what you say is so true that it is hard. If the first step is to, after we recognize that this is something that's happening, is to stop when we're in the middle of response, how do we stop?

Something that I work with the people, and I actually heard you talk about in a different way that I really appreciated in one of your Essentials podcasts, where You know, in that moment, when we're in that reaction, you know, the sympathetic nervous system has been activated. The solution, though, is not to deactivate the sympathetic. It's to activate the parasympathetic.

Something that I work with the people, and I actually heard you talk about in a different way that I really appreciated in one of your Essentials podcasts, where You know, in that moment, when we're in that reaction, you know, the sympathetic nervous system has been activated. The solution, though, is not to deactivate the sympathetic. It's to activate the parasympathetic.

Something that I work with the people, and I actually heard you talk about in a different way that I really appreciated in one of your Essentials podcasts, where You know, in that moment, when we're in that reaction, you know, the sympathetic nervous system has been activated. The solution, though, is not to deactivate the sympathetic. It's to activate the parasympathetic.

So our practices and tools that I think are the most beneficial is how do we activate the parasympathetic?

So our practices and tools that I think are the most beneficial is how do we activate the parasympathetic?