Sabrina Zohar

When you're with somebody, I don't want you to focus on how do they feel about me.

I want you to focus on how do I feel in my body when I'm with this person.

We're so focused on, are they choosing me?

Are they going to pick me?

That we end up self-abandoning and say, my wants, needs, and desires don't matter.

I need you to like me.

Jay, I am so excited to be here.

Thank you for having me.

It's so funny.

Thank you for reminding me about the flower.

Because as you said, I was like, oh, my childhood.

I think what we're really looking for, for me, I'm a big on effort equals interest.

And I think we're getting in a time where that effort is starting to get muddied, right?

We're looking at it as, are they texting me every day?

Are they contacting me?

And we're looking at these dopamine hits as opposed to actually connecting with people.

And so I think for me, are you feeling safe, seen, and secure with this person?

Now, that might not happen after one date, but is this somebody that is reciprocal?

Are they intentional?

Are they consistent?