Sabrina Zohar

What do you want to do?

And instead, they're an addition to my life now instead of.

And so if I'm welcoming you into my life, you have to earn that place into my life.

And so I would say this, if it's happened, the best thing to do is one, not take it personally because we have to ask, how could it be you?

Now, if you can remove yourself and say, yikes, okay, I text them 300 times yesterday.

I called them a bunch.

I started accusing them.

Great.

If you can be self-aware enough to remove yourself and understand it.

But a lot of the times we have to say, what's the story in the narrative that you've created about the situation?

Because that's usually what's hurting more.

It's less about, of course, right?

But if you knew this person for a month and a half, do you really know anything about them or is it the idea of them?

The scarcity mindset, I might never meet anybody else.

They were the best I've met.

I haven't met anyone like this.

So then we're already putting them in a place that they haven't earned because if they were so amazing, then they would have stuck around.

And instead of thinking about what if, we have to look at what is.

And what is, is that this person didn't show up in the ways that I need.

That doesn't work for me.