Sabrina Zohar
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Why aren't they into me?
That's intellectualizing.
And when we're intellectualizing, that's our way of saying if I can understand it intellectually, I don't have to feel it.
And for a lot of us, at least me, I grew up in a very chaotic household.
I grew up with no safety, really.
There wasn't a presence of joy or love.
And so for me, it felt familiar.
My nervous system understands, oh, you're not into me, similar to my dad.
Then let me make you, let me earn it.
And then there's the term repetition compulsion.
Have you heard of it?
Yeah.
So repetition compulsion is a Freudian term.
And essentially what it means is you're going to date the parts of you that haven't been healed.
Yeah.
So repetition compulsion means you're going to date the parts of you that haven't been healed.
So for me, I had a narcissistic father.
Every man I dated was incredibly narcissistic.
Why?
Because my nervous system's homeostasis was you need to earn it.