Sabrina Zohar

You're not enough.

There's something wrong with you.

That gets wired into us before words can even be said out of our mouths.

That is wired in based on how your caregivers are tuned to your needs.

How are they showing up for you?

And I want to preface as well, no one's villainizing anybody's parents.

This isn't about you're the worst parent.

You had a big T trauma.

Oftentimes it could be those small little paper cuts that start to add up.

Maybe you had a parent that was really busy and they just didn't make eye contact with you.

And so now you feel that I need to get somebody.

And oftentimes we're self-abandoning because if I can get you to like me, well, then my dad was wrong and everybody in the past was wrong.

But what happens?

Then it reaffirms my core beliefs.

See, I knew there was something wrong with me.

That person doesn't want me.

I couldn't change them.

That's where I ask, when I start to chase somebody, how old do I feel?

Do I feel like a kid?

Do I feel like, man, I feel like I'm seven years old talking to my dad.