Sabrina Zohar

I just have to be me.

And it won't always work out versus my messaging growing up was like who you are is a problem.

And so if you change who you are, then maybe they'll like you and they'll stay.

But if you stay who you are, people are going to leave you because there's something wrong with you.

And if I had someone, even at high school, that was able to tell me differently, who knows where I would have been.

But I, girl, we all know my story.

I was the hot mess express.

I would sleep with anybody that walked.

I was texting a million times an hour.

I was so anxious.

I couldn't function.

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And until I realized all of that was coping mechanisms, those were just ways for me to escape what I was dealing with internally.

And then when I faced it, now you can come out the other side and the other side of that looks like a human, someone who has bad days, someone who has moments where you want to kill your partner, but you also love them.

Someone who is exhausted by dating, but still hopeful that it exists, right?

The huge sign of healing is two conflicting thoughts that I could be exhausted from putting myself out there, but I also know that that's part of it.

Because that's how we can keep going when we don't self-identify of there must be something wrong with me.

That's when no one wants me to change that to, I just haven't met that person yet.

It really allows us.

And of course, taking radical accountability of any behaviors or if there's a pattern, right?