Sabrina Zohar

Our nervous system will change.

Right, yeah.

That would be it.

I'd be hiding.

But everybody handles it differently, right?

You might fight.

Everybody is going to come out depending on what feels safe and in the moment.

But oftentimes, the problem is that there's no tiger.

There's no threat.

It's just our nervous system is perceiving it because our brain wants to save space.

And if our brain says, it's easier for me to go, this always happens, then I don't have to turn my prefrontal cortex on and access that place of choice.

So when we look at your state, think about it in, if I'm super dysregulated, my state is going to determine the story.

I'm not safe.

I need this person to answer me.

There's something wrong with me.

I'm not good enough, which will then determine my strategy.

I'll text them again.

I'll get them to like me, as opposed to, I need to learn to sit in the discomfort.

I have to allow myself because when we can sit in the discomfort and expand our window of tolerance, which essentially means how long we can stay in our ventral state versus going up and down, when you expand your window of tolerance, you can handle more things.

Then it's not as scary, right?