Sabrina Zohar

And to me, I couldn't be more grateful to be an adult in the time we're in now because I get to have choices I never would have had potentially in the past.

So I think a lot of people might not like my answer.

But at the end of the day, we have to show vulnerability to see if they match it.

Because somebody could come off either really strong and do everything right, but maybe you don't realize that they're actually more of a facade than they are who they are until you start to set a boundary, until you have a tough conversation.

until you say something to them and all of a sudden you see the flippancy and you're like, there it is, right?

Or vice versa.

When I first met my partner, he was a lot more reserved and closed off and a little bit more stoic.

That didn't mean he was bad.

I thought he was a dickhead when I first met him, but I was like, let's see if he opens up, right?

He had a really good sense of humor.

So I knew there was something there.

And I think what it is, it's a couple of things.

One, it's trusting yourself that when something comes up or you and I have talked offline about dating experiences.

And I know that when we've spoken, your gut was telling you something pretty early on.

But maybe it's, oh, let me give them a chance and let me see.

Right.

That's being hopeful and being just like an adult versus when you meet somebody now and say, well, I tried to have a tough conversation with them asking their intentions.

Right.

I couldn't get anywhere, right?

Or I said something and they dismissed me or they discredited my feelings or they told me I'm being too much.