Sabrina Zohar

They said I'm too sensitive.

Right there, that means they're not emotionally available.

They can't hold space for their own emotions.

So what makes you think they're going to hold space for yours?

And so I think we want to, the green flags we're looking for is consistency.

Their words and actions align, right?

If they say they call, they call.

And if they don't, they give you a reason not to, that they couldn't.

If they say they're going to be there, they're there.

That is how we build trust and safety.

When you go to them and say, you know, you said something the other day and it really rubbed me the wrong way.

Can I share that with you?

They don't get defensive.

They say, hey, talk to me.

I want to know what's going on with you.

What happened?

So I can understand you.

They show curiosity.

These are all emotional availability cues that I think oftentimes we look over because we romanticize the red flags.

oh, they're mysterious and they're pulling back, which means they must be going through a lot.