Sabrina Zohar

And it's like, no, baby, they're pulling back because they can't handle this.

And the quicker that you realize that, the quicker you won't waste your time.

A hundred percent.

100%, because when we intellectualize, your brain's like, cool, I can avoid feeling if I just understand it.

And what you described beautifully is like, that's you guys are co-regulating.

And co-regulation is a beautiful thing, but if that's all you have, that's when it becomes dangerous, right?

If every time you're without this person, you're losing it, but okay, when you talk to them, it's okay.

That's when it becomes, okay, hey, this is becoming codependent, right?

Your mood is dependent on them.

But when you have a moment where you're like, oh, I feel something, you speak to them, wow, you got clarity.

Okay, now I feel more regulated.

That's part of a relationship.

That's what makes trust build.

That's how you feel connected to this person.

And what you also described is called a corrective experience.

Our nervous system doesn't intellectually understand things.

So even though you could sit here and say, he's lovely and he's great, and my nervous system should feel safe.

Your nervous system is going, yeah, okay, girl.

That's fun.

That's fun.