Sabrina Zohar

And it wasn't until I started to do the work where I said, where did I learn that from?

And I went back and I literally I opened the door for her and I told him, get out of my face.

And I spoke to my father as the version now.

And I took her and I said, we're out of here.

You don't have to live here anymore.

And I have done that every single day.

Because whether she be in the attic, whether she be back in that room, it doesn't matter where she is.

For anybody that's listening, you might not have that journey.

You might have it be something completely different.

But if you want to advocate for yourself, you got to learn where you learned that that wasn't safe.

And I have to give myself permission to advocate for myself.

And then what I also have to do is know people are going to not be like, okay with that.

We have to remember,

If you've never set boundaries and then all of a sudden you start setting boundaries with someone and they push back, well, yeah, because they benefited from the version of you that didn't have any.

And so now when you start to show up differently, you're going to have to grieve that people are going to leave.

But then what you also do is you get to choose who gets to come into your life.

Because what you did with Roddy was beautiful.

Hey, here's where I'm at.

And she says, okay, here's where I'm at.

And you're both going, that works for me.