Sabrina Zohar

And they might not.

That's a very real reality.

They could do all this work and you can still say, but I need more.

But oftentimes it's not that I need more than you, I need more of you.

And that's a really big discerning distinction because if I need more than you, I'm shit out of luck.

But if I need more of you, we have something that we can work with if they're willing to do the same.

Right.

It's like situationships, right?

When anybody, people are in situationships, it's like, so which one are you out of the bunch?

Are you the one with commitment issues or are you the one that's insecure?

Because how do we get into that dynamic?

How do we get into the emotionally unavailable dynamic with people?

Because we're not taking up space.

Because one person is saying, I'm going to play the cool guy or girl.

I'm not going to have any needs.

I'll be the two-dimensional.

And that's why the nice guy and the nice girl finish last, because that's all they have.

For me, I find it so sexy when someone tells me no.

And not in the, like, just to say it.

I find it really sexy if I say, I really like this.