Sabrina Zohar

I've done that.

I've been out on the date going, this person's great.

Then you go home going, wait a minute, did he actually say what I thought he said?

Or no, I'm actually don't really like this.

And you just decide that's why we're dating.

And I think what I'm seeing now really big is that we want certainty.

I need to know that before I've gone out with you, that you want to date me.

You want to be in a relationship.

You want to get married because we don't trust ourselves.

If you trust yourself that no matter what, you'll be okay.

You'll ask the right questions.

You'll vet them properly.

And you'll decide if this works for you.

That's what we need to focus on.

I would have to argue and say, what are you looking for?

Because if you're chasing a feeling, you can't be surprised when you don't find it.

When you're chasing something that is just momentary, then you're left with a human after.

And so if they're perfect on paper, then I think what we need to look and say is, what are you actually looking for?

Because that's a cognitive dissonance.

I say I want this.