Sabrina Zohar

We all do it in different ways, but we have to be able to go back to those parts and tell those versions it wasn't you.

Because what happens, I don't know if you're familiar with egocentric age, right?

And so essentially what that's saying in psychology is from zero to seven, zero to 10, depending on the school of thought, is that we are narcissistic as children.

You have to be.

That's how you learn like, oh, I fell.

Okay, I could get back up.

But we attune to our caregivers.

And so during that phase, if at six years old, your father keeps leaving, of course you're going, oh, it's me.

Oh, there must be something wrong.

Because if you didn't have an adult to come and say, hey, they're unstable.

This isn't you.

You didn't do anything wrong.

Their way of dealing with this doesn't mean anything about you.

Who had those parents, right?

Very few of us.

Then that's where we create these core beliefs.

And then the core beliefs become our stories and then they become our cognitive dissonances.

And then that's how we start to move through the world.

And so it really starts with where did I learn this from?

And then what did I need then that I have to give myself now?