Sabrina Zohar

God, don't you have your own life?

Why are you deflecting this onto me?

You're not taking accountability for what you did.

Now I could have sat and said, maybe one day, maybe one day.

I'm not betting on potential because my dad never changed, so it makes me think these people will.

It didn't matter how much I loved my father.

It didn't matter how much I showed up for him.

It didn't matter how much my mother, it didn't matter what she did for him.

It didn't change who he was because that's not how this works.

And so I would say, if you're dating somebody emotionally unavailable who is growth-minded and saying, I'm willing to do the work, chef's kiss.

All right, continue on and see if they have the capacity.

And they might not.

That's a very real reality.

They could do all this work and you can still say, but I need more.

But oftentimes it's not that I need more than you, I need more of you.

And that's a really big discerning distinction because if I need more than you, I'm shit out of luck.

But if I need more of you, we have something that we can work with if they're willing to do the same.

Right.

It's like situationships, right?

When anybody, people are in situationships, it's like, so which one are you out of the bunch?