Sabrina Zohar

You don't ask somebody what it is that you are.

You tell them what you want and you see if it aligns.

So if you're in the gray area, you say, hey, I'd love to share something with you.

I don't know what's happening here.

I really like you.

I'd love to delete the apps and just focus on you.

But I wanted to see how are you feeling about that?

Most people won't do that because they're scared of the answer.

But if you genuinely want to know, you got to ask.

Yeah, go with the flow is the worst dating advice.

Where's the flow going?

Is there an end game?

Like, do we have snacks on the way?

Like, where are we going?

Because there is no end game.

And so I need clarity, not the fluidity.

Because when people say they're going with the flow, what they're really saying is like, I'm not going to commit.

That's projection because then what's happening is we're putting our core beliefs.

What we have to look and say is maybe they found a partner that was better suited for them.

Maybe that person didn't trigger their nervous system.