Sabrina Zohar

Maybe that person was a safer experience.

Maybe you were really like their dad growing up and that just made them and rubbed them the wrong way.

Maybe you guys had completely opposing political beliefs.

What we have to do is we have to look and say, what are the facts?

Because if I say I wasn't enough, I'm not good enough, I could all but guarantee if I talk to the other person, they would say, oh, this has nothing to do with that.

It's X, Y, and Z. So what I do is, what are the facts to back this thought up?

And if I don't have any, okay, then where did I learn this from?

Because if it's my insecurity, that's what's really coming up.

It has nothing to do with them.

Nothing changed.

Nothing changed.

But it's really important when we're talking about this.

That's why it's like if you're scared to ask for your needs to be met and have this conversation, then what we're seeing is that person probably doesn't have the bandwidth to begin with.

And maybe they do and they just haven't had the conversation with them.

But if we're going to look back and say they have something I don't, well, then all we're doing is we're projecting our insecurities.

So that has nothing to do with the person.

It has everything to do with the story that you created about why they didn't want you.

The good news is you can control that.

The right person will, for sure.

But it doesn't mean that they don't care about you.