Sabrina Zohar

And that's the nuance.

I think what I really learned what healing was, healing doesn't mean you get rid of the emotions.

Healing doesn't mean that you just never feel sad or anxious or anything.

What it means is that you learn to live with it.

You expand that window of tolerance so you have the capacity to handle it.

So it's not every single time there's an inconvenience you're getting, either you're freaking out or you're crying or you're shutting down.

It's like, okay, well, then that we don't have the ability.

the emotional capacity to be able to hold things, but that's also part of holding two conflicting thoughts.

I can miss someone and also know they're not right for me.

I can think you're amazing and also say, this isn't the right relationship for me.

I can say that you're limited and also say, but I think that we can make it through.

If we can hold the two conflicting thoughts, then what we're actually doing is we're turning our prefrontal cortex on.

And oftentimes in dating, when we go from X equals Y equals Z, that's because your brain is trying to actually close the loop by a shortcut.

And it's like, I love neuroscience.

I think it's fascinating.

The more we repeat something, the deeper those neural pathways become.

And I found out something fascinating.

It takes 300 repetitions for your body to remember a move.

So I need to do squats 300 times for my body to go, okay, this is what I have to do.

It takes 3,000 repetitions to create a new neural pathway that you would go down organically.