Sadia Khan

So the hookup culture and Tinder and all these things were designed for people to do the bad things.

It was designed to give you so many alternatives.

It was designed for you to get into short-term relationships.

It was designed to keep your options open.

So it was giving you the prototype of how to never be in a monotonous, monogamous relationship.

It's really difficult.

Unfortunately, you do have to stick, you almost have to play the game.

It's a bit like, you know, government takes your tax, you almost have to accept it.

It's going to do it.

So it is really difficult.

But what I would say is that

Listen to your gut.

Like if you feel like the apps or this person is making you behave in a way that you're not comfortable with, say that they want hookups, they want threesomes, they want all these things, and you're just going along with it because you think that's the culture, listen to your know.

Even if you don't know what you want, you always know what you don't want.

And if a relationship is making you uncomfortable,

stop there just or just say what you would prefer if they would agree with you perfect if they don't no worries but you can't get overly attached to the person to the point where you're letting them lead you off a cliff which does happen a lot for a lot of women I find for women in particular I don't I don't think women that do sleep around a lot then I don't think that was their intention a lot of the girls they're just like I just didn't have a choice because he was like putting pressure on me he wanted pictures he wanted this he wanted that

And they also learn very quickly that the more you become like this, the more men reward you.

The more attention they'll give you, the more likely they are to see you.

So they end up playing the game, but artificially, because it's not really what they want.

It's not what they want.