Sadia Khan

If you're a hypersensitive person, it's an incapability for you to have real connections in your life because you don't allow for truth to be the glue in your relationships.

And so people tiptoe around you, even your partners will tiptoe around you, and you'll never know what people truly think or want for you.

So my partner will easily say, hey, babe, we're both gaining a bit of weight, let's get into the gym, let's work out, no problem.

Or babe, your hair's looking a bit different, do it properly, whatever it is.

But that keeps us attracted to each other.

But if I was super, super sensitive, he can't say it, then I can't say it, and then we grow apart emotionally, and that's not really a good thing in relationships.

No, because I gave it to you so last minute.

I was like, this is not going to, a poor thing.

Is that what it's called?

Yeah.

Unfortunately, and I have the question I ask every therapist to ask their partner is, are you a nice guy or a nice girl?

The moment they are, unfortunately, their relationships are either going to end up abusive or they're going to be difficult relationships.

And the reason why people pleasers have the worst relationships, way more than narcissistic people, narcissistic people have the best relationships.

And the reason they have the best relationships is they don't settle for less.

They think they're really deserving.

They expect love and loyalty.

They have amazing relationships.

The people that suffer the most in relationships are actually people pleasers.

And the reason people pleasers suffer the most in relationships is because they have a set of fears that I talk about in the book.

The first fear that they have, and they have this deep-rooted fear of the truth.