Sally Hepworth

And I quickly realised that that wasn't going to work, that we weren't going to be working together like that, Christian and I. And that took some adjusting.

And it's actually the thing that when I look back, I wish I had realised earlier that we're not married anymore.

And so we don't necessarily, we're not going to be on the same page always.

In an ideal world, co-parenting is wonderful.

I now have a lot of divorced friends.

I've sought out divorced people because I was so traumatised.

I've got a divorced group of women that we call ourselves the golden girls and we share information.

And in every case, even when they've come to the other side and now can co-parent, there's a part in the middle that we call the mean part.

And it helped me to call it that because it was a part of

Something that had a beginning and an end and it wasn't personal and it wasn't, you know, and I think every divorce has a mean part.

I think it is security, you know, which money represents a lot of security.

I think it's security... And freedom.

Yeah, and fear.

You know, you don't know...

And you go from being even if you have plenty of money, you're suddenly half, you've got half as much or whatever that looks like.

And that's scary.

And if you're, you know, I'm in my mid-40s, Christian's 50, and so that is a very real fear.

All of a sudden, you know, am I prepared for retirement or am I, you know, and I was in the really lucky position that I've never stepped out of work.

I, you know, earn a good income.

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