Sara Al Madani

Last year, I learned that when you're nervous on a date or when you're feeling all these things, it's actually a red flag.

It means your nervous system is not calm.

It's trying to tell you something.

But the movies and they taught us that to interpret them as butterflies and they're the right one and that's how it should feel like.

A friend of mine once told me a quote that actually made me sit at home for hours and think about my life so much.

She told me, don't look for a firecracker, look for a fireplace.

A firecracker is when you have like all these butterflies in your stomach.

And that's not a good thing.

You should look for a fireplace.

The boring guy, the calm guy, that's your guy, you know?

And it took me time to realize that.

But chemistry is tricky because it might be misleading sometimes.

Compatibility is more sexy for me and it's more long lasting.

I treat relationships as business.

So a business partner that has so much money or an investor and they have so many companies, chemistry, very attractive.

But if there's no compatibility in the way we think, our ethics and morals, I'm investing my money and I'm throwing everything out down the drain because it's not going to go anywhere.

It's not a good investment.

I look at compatibility and if there's compatibility, chemistry can come later.

I don't need to have chemistry from the get-go.

I don't know if you noticed.