Sara Al Madani

But it's trauma bonding.

So a lot of people might think, oh, no, I was in love.

I really love reflecting on old relationships.

And I would love people to also sit and reflect on their old relationships after doing the work.

Do this game where you put their names and you write why were you attracted to them and you realize where were you trauma bonding.

And only when you can pinpoint these things is where you grow, Jay.

Because a lot of us, we throw ourselves into healing.

It's like walking into a supermarket and saying, I want to bake a cake.

Can you help me?

It's like, what cake do you want to bake?

I need to give you the right ingredients.

So when people go to do the inner work, they just throw themselves into healing, not knowing what are they healing from?

Where did all this all start?

What's the root of it all?

So people don't go so deep.

They just want to heal the surface.

My last relationship, the relationship before.

But all of this starts way from childhood, doesn't start from a relationship, right?

I mean, it's an entangled thing to do the inner work, but it's not easy, but it's such a fulfilling, rewarding thing to do.

Chemistry is tricky because I cannot depend on chemistry because it's hormonal, it's endorphins, it's you meet somebody, excitement.