Sara Al Madani

But now, now, if I could look at my younger self and I go like, that's unattractive.

Clarity is attractive.

Mystery and not understanding where you stand with someone or who they are, what they do.

It's not attractive.

It's actually such a turnoff because it shows you the person is not aligned and the person is not a leader and not transparent and honest.

That's something, like, if I looked at myself, every time I used to see a guy who's mysterious, I'm like, oh my God, that's so hot.

Now it's like, uh-uh, biggest red flag ever.

Totally.

For so many years, before doing the inner work and all that, my taste was changing as in like looks wise, height wise, whatever they do in life wise.

But it was still the same man in different bodies.

That's it.

So it was the same toxic traits.

I think it's because we attract what's familiar to us.

They say better the devil I know than the angel I don't know, right?

Because I know how to deal with the devil.

I know where it ends.

I know this is not forever.

I know the hurt and the pain that comes with it.

This is why I kept on going to what's familiar.

I remember when I finished doing the inner work and finished my healing, I was like, even looking at pictures of my exes, I'm like, what was I thinking?