Sarah Kanowski

I can't do that.

And after I dumped him, I obviously had the – I did those searches reasonably – I mean, it took me a while.

Christmas was in the middle of it and I was – there was still a lot of time I was spending under a duvet with a pillow over my head.

and I certainly took some valium during that time.

What was revealed about him when you did those searches?

The first phone call I made was to the man he'd claimed was his ex-business partner in the architectural firm, and certainly this man was his ex-business partner.

I refer to him as Peter in the book.

And when I told Peter why I was ringing and I was shaking as I made the call, Kate McClymon in the background egging me on...

Peter's first words were, he's a compulsive liar.

And then over through the conversation, he revealed just extraordinary details about what had gone down in their business.

And he hadn't retired from architecture.

The business had collapsed under the weight of debt.

Soon, around about that same time, I did a search to discover that my ex had been bankrupt at the time I was with him.

Hence why he used cash.

I'd once asked him, why don't you have a credit card?

And he said, oh, I hate the banks.

I'm not giving them any money, which that's not an uncommon sentiment, is it?

But now I can see you can't get a credit card when you're bankrupt.

I did keep an eye on her feed for some months and he would appear sporadically, not very often.

How would you feel when you saw him?