Saskia Vandoorne

Having said that, we do know that there are men who are, of course, survivors as well.

There were in fact a few cases of male survivors who did reach out to us after it was published to say that they were in coercive relationships.

and that they had, you know, been abused sexually.

But we have never come across any kind of, you know, content that shows men being drugged and raped by other men.

But that's not to say that, you know, that it doesn't exist.

It just is that in our investigation, we didn't come across that type of content.

Zoe was married to her husband for 16 years.

They have four children together and he was a childhood sweetheart.

And one day after church, he comes home, makes her a cup of tea and tells her that he has been drugging her with their son's sleep medication that he's been crushing in her tea last thing at night.

And he has been raping her in her sleep and he's been taking photos and videos.

and Zoe's world of course completely collapses and in her words what was so hard for her at the beginning was just to be able to wrap her head around what had happened and to be able to

understand that this was abuse.

Because at the start, and this is what we have seen with so many of these survivors, is that the emotional context makes it so difficult for the survivor to accept that the man she loved, the man she trusted the most, the man she has built an entire family with and future with, has become her aggressor.

And in Zoe's case, at first she thought, I'll be able to handle this myself.

We'll separate, but I don't want the children to lose their father.

I don't want him to be locked away for a long time because the children will know what their father did and they'll have a reputation and everything.

And it's just so much.

It was so much for her to take in, to digest.

For her, rape was the guy who surprises you in a parking lot.

She couldn't understand that the man who she had been sleeping with