Sean Pyles

But it depends on the city you're living in, too.

If someone's living in New York or L.A.

or.

or Atlanta, Miami, places that have high rent, you might just want to have a roommate or two so you can save more money for other things like they might be able to take you out to more dates if they're saving more money by not spending as much on rent.

So I'm okay with that.

There you go.

I will say not having your own bedroom would be a deal breaker.

Okay.

So I saw a data point in the study that 18% of Americans currently in a relationship say that they've lied about purchases.

Why do you think people are lying about where they're spending their money, Sarah?

Yeah, let's have some radical transparency about where you're spending your money and maybe some grace about how your partner is spending their money.

As long as all the bases are covered, you know, you're paying your rent, you're paying your utilities, putting some money away in your retirement and savings accounts.

And then beyond that, have fun.

It's a good litmus test.

When people lie about their finances, a lot of the time it can come from a place of shame and feeling like maybe you messed up or that your partner wouldn't understand why you did these things with your finances.

But recovering and being honest about your finances is a really important step to reestablishing that deeper trust in your relationship in general.

So how can people begin to be more on the mend and recover from any sort of financial infidelity, as they call it?

A lot of times, money can be used as a tool to play out power dynamics in a relationship that can develop in unhealthy ways over time.

And if you are in a place where you feel like you can't talk about money, or one of the partners is the one that's enforcing spending in kind of strict or maybe unhealthy ways,

It might be a good idea to talk with a couples therapist, perhaps a financial therapist to really resolve these issues and get to a place of that mutual trust again.