Selena Gomez

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I had an overwhelming advantage in the loss, and that was I had a really close family that was there.

For example, when my wife and daughter were killed, my first wife and my two boys were very badly injured, a tractor trailer brought side of them.

I was not in the accident.

When I got home from the hospital, my sister and husband already gave up their apartment and moved in, helped me raise my kid.

My brother, we lived in a suburban area.

It was more country than suburban.

And there was a little barn, a garage barn.

My brother came and he turned the loft of the barn into an apartment for himself.

They were there for me all the time.

That was a gigantic difference.

My best friend in my life and my sister and my brothers.

And so I had an enormous advantage, and I think that

When you see people who are going through something tough, it does matter if you reach out.

I mean, it does matter.

Like, for example, you know, you have a, when you're a senator for all the years I was in a small state, you know, so many people and people would pass away.

You'd show up at the wake of the funeral, no matter what was happening.

I learned it early on.

People would stop and just come and throw their arms around me.

because if they know you know the pain they feel, they get some solace in it.