Shade Zahrai

So the next question that we ask then is, how do you determine which cup you need to put down?

How do you determine what the next step is?

Because when we're in life, it's so easy to conflate feelings and thoughts with who we are, we internalize them.

So I'm going to take you back in time to the year, when was this?

Maybe 2009?

I had just started learning how to do salsa dancing.

So I'm a former professional and competitive Latin dancer.

I did that during my university days and early years in work.

For me, I needed an outlet because I was so confused as to what I was doing with my career.

You're quite the underachiever.

for me no i think so i if we look at that doubt profile right my own doubt profile those four things i'm lower on acceptance i'm high on autonomy most of the time but low on acceptance what does that mean a lot of my decisions have been driven by not feeling like i'm enough

And so it started very early on in life, but then also like even doing the law degree, I never felt like I belonged.

I felt like an outsider.

So I felt like I had to prove myself again, driven by a lack of acceptance working in the legal industry.

I was so full of insecurity that I made myself physically sick.

I was going to various specialists.

No one could figure out what it was.

And then finally they're like, it's stress related because when I'm not at work, I'm fine.

And then when I went into banking, same thing.

And then when I did the MBA, same thing.