Shade Zahrai

So they are the four things and I didn't hear any of that coming through because you were so focused on your mission.

If we look at agency, this is the one that could have been your greatest blocker.

It was, I'm not qualified to do this.

I'm not going to understand how to do this.

People are going to pick me apart.

I'm going to feel like an imposter.

but again i didn't hear that and what you did was you kept an inventory of all the skills that you were developing if anyone listening to this ever feels like an imposter feels like you don't belong

What I encourage you to do, and one thing to acknowledge here is that a lot of women, in my experience, a lot of women will tend to wait to feel 100% ready that they have all the skills, the qualifications before they apply for a job or before they try something.

They want to have the certainty that it'll work out.

And the reason is us women tend to judge failure and rejection as much more harshly, as much heavier than men would.

So we have a part of our brain that is constantly scanning and we're wired a lot of us for agreeability, agreeableness.

So something to acknowledge, but it does affect men too.

So if you're applying for something or you feel like a fraud, do what we call, it's a three column exercise, super easy, split a page up into three.

On the left, write down everything you don't think you know how to do.

Everything that's missing.

So in your case, it might be, well, I don't have a medical degree.

I have no background in this.

Whatever it is.

For someone else, it could be I don't know how to code.

I don't know how to give presentations.