Shade Zahrai

But you know what?

There's one element we didn't cover because I got so excited.

I do want to quickly cover the element of, because we talked about how to feel more confident, which actually is not about the feeling of confidence.

It's about the trusting yourself.

But then what happens if you do trust yourself, but you're not exhibiting the right kind of behaviors or physicality to get other people to trust you or other people to have confidence in you?

Because when you look confident, it increases your perceptions of competence.

And we have worked with some people who are really good at what they do.

They trust themselves, but there's a ceiling because other people don't see the confidence and it doesn't translate to competence.

This can happen, certain cultural groups,

who just haven't learned how to exude confidence.

It can happen with particular genders who, mainly women, who have for a very long time just taken up less space and spoken more quietly.

They trust themselves, but they don't know how to convey it.

So I'll just share a few simple strategies for anyone listening before we wrap up.

So the very first thing to acknowledge is that the brain and body are deeply and intricately connected.

And what you're doing physically

will both reflect and reinforce what's going on in your head so if you are ever doubting yourself feeling insecure unsure your body because of what your brain is telling it which is usually magnifying the negative will try to withdraw to protect itself you will lean out you'll slouch you'll look down you'll

That then reinforces to your brain, yes, you need to protect yourself.

Keep doing that.

And then it keeps magnifying the negatives.

Completely.