Shade Zahrai

But if you're just starting out, you actually want to wear something that is going to be a sense of belonging.

You're going to look like you belong to the group as opposed to who the heck is that?

Who invited that?

Who let that person in, right?

You can have a little pop of color or a little something else for personality, but you don't want to alienate yourself too early when you're trying to be part of a group.

So that's the first thing.

Now, as you advance in your career or your whatever, and you gain the credibility, you can do whatever you need because your credibility is not in question anymore.

This is when you're starting, you're meeting new people, et cetera.

So that's the first thing, what you're wearing.

The second thing is posture.

You'll probably be able to tell if I'm hunching, looking down, versus if I'm upright, I have open gestures and I'm making eye contact, right?

From a distance.

Generally posture reflects internal levels of self-belief, which then manifests in our perceptions of competence.

If you have two people, one of them is slouching, the other one is not, you're gonna think, okay, I'm gonna give that person the job, I'm gonna give that person my business, I trust them more because of the competence factor.

Then as you get closer, you're going to notice things like my face, my eye contact, am I making eye contact or am I darting around?

Am I staring too much for too long?

Because that's also creepy, so don't do that either.

They generally say around three seconds.

of uninterrupted eye contact which means that's just enough time to determine what is the color of this person's iris so just what is the color of their iris cool and then you might look away for a moment you might take a breath blink whatever it is and then smile a lot of the time we think that in order to be credible we need to have a really stern looking face for people to believe that we are who we say we are that we're serious serious people that can actually do the opposite

Smiling is a signal of warmth.